what pisses me the most
i dont know why also. but i get very pissed when friends tell me do something as if it was an order. friends dont possess that kind of authority. my parents, my project supervisors and my future bosses they can. but if friends tell me what to do, i get really, really pissed off.
and it's different like when someone is suppose to fetch me and tell me where to meet or wait. those kind of things i can accept because, in a way, they are 'in authority'.
the kind that pisses me is like telling me when to sleep and when to wake up, what to do at what time of the day. things that i should be in control of. it's my own life, no?
the other kind that pisses me off is when people need my help, but they 'ask' in such a way that they aren't really asking. for example, you want me to help you get a glass of water because i will be walking past the kitchen. but instead of asking me if i can get you that glass of water, you tell me to get you a glass of water. or in mandrain, instead of 帮我拿一杯水, you say 拿一杯水给我. i really do think that the word '帮' makes a very big difference between asking for a favour and ordering. it's like even if you didn't use a very polite tone, but if you used the word '帮', shows to me that you know you're asking for a favour and not instructing me to do something like you would do to a maid.
just an aside, i dont even think people should be instructing the maid to do such trivial things. they should also ask their maid when it's things as petty as that.
and then there's this last kind of telling me what to do which was meant to be for my own good. but it's not like the big kind of things in life that i am too young to understand. it's the kind of things that you would normally only ask a kid still in primary school to do.
my sister is a classic example.
there was once, i think, we bought a banana coated with chocolate (either that or just a normal banana, but i'm sure it's a banana). and because she wants to have a bite at almost all food, especially the ones that we already bought, she ate the banana too. and you know how people normally share food right. you all eat together and when one cant eat anymore, or maybe you wants to leave the last bit to other person cause the other person liked it more than you do, you tell the other person that he or she can have the rest in a nice way. ok might not need to be in a very nice way but defnitely not the kind of tone my sister normally use. i know she meant it in a nice way, but somehow it sounded very different from her intention. she just said,
'eat the rest of the banana.'
sigh.
and it's different like when someone is suppose to fetch me and tell me where to meet or wait. those kind of things i can accept because, in a way, they are 'in authority'.
the kind that pisses me is like telling me when to sleep and when to wake up, what to do at what time of the day. things that i should be in control of. it's my own life, no?
the other kind that pisses me off is when people need my help, but they 'ask' in such a way that they aren't really asking. for example, you want me to help you get a glass of water because i will be walking past the kitchen. but instead of asking me if i can get you that glass of water, you tell me to get you a glass of water. or in mandrain, instead of 帮我拿一杯水, you say 拿一杯水给我. i really do think that the word '帮' makes a very big difference between asking for a favour and ordering. it's like even if you didn't use a very polite tone, but if you used the word '帮', shows to me that you know you're asking for a favour and not instructing me to do something like you would do to a maid.
just an aside, i dont even think people should be instructing the maid to do such trivial things. they should also ask their maid when it's things as petty as that.
and then there's this last kind of telling me what to do which was meant to be for my own good. but it's not like the big kind of things in life that i am too young to understand. it's the kind of things that you would normally only ask a kid still in primary school to do.
my sister is a classic example.
there was once, i think, we bought a banana coated with chocolate (either that or just a normal banana, but i'm sure it's a banana). and because she wants to have a bite at almost all food, especially the ones that we already bought, she ate the banana too. and you know how people normally share food right. you all eat together and when one cant eat anymore, or maybe you wants to leave the last bit to other person cause the other person liked it more than you do, you tell the other person that he or she can have the rest in a nice way. ok might not need to be in a very nice way but defnitely not the kind of tone my sister normally use. i know she meant it in a nice way, but somehow it sounded very different from her intention. she just said,
'eat the rest of the banana.'
sigh.
