it's not an invitation, is it?
you know how sometimes, because you dont often meet the people you wanna invite, you ask other friends to ask them on your behalf?
i have friends like that. but the problem is not with them, it's with the people they asked to help pass the message.
ok, here's the background story. all of us guys always go to the apartment of this particular friend...
at this point i want to say that this is not an angry or hate post. i've got used to it already. i've come to realise that some people are just like that, and i accept my friends for what they are already. it has already been 5 years!
ok so as i was saying, we go to his apartment a lot, and because we've accepted him for who he is, we go even though the apartment is dirtier than ours, and that the apartment has a weird smell, and that there is no cooled-boiled water, and that there's no tissue etc.
and because we go to his apartment so often, whenever there's any events, people just ask him to inform us, maybe thinking that we'll go to his house anyway so it's easier that way.
but that's not the case.
everytime anyone ask him to ask us, he doesnt, at least not on the first day he sees us. he'll wait a few days and by then, some other people would had already asked us if we're going to whatever the event is. so, the first time we hear about anything is 'eh, you going to ( ) right?'.
and unless we're really interested in going, we'll just say no cause, well, we though we werent invited anyway. and when it's near the day of the event, the friend who was suppose to ask us will come and ask the same thing we've already been asked.
'eh, you going to () right?'
and then we'll say no again because even though we've heard about it, we werent officially invited.
but he does not get that.
he doesnt get it that sometimes we say 'no' because we simply dont feel as if we were invited, not because we really dont want to go. he also doesnt get it that we've heard about those events not because other people invited us, but because we've been asked us if we're going or not.
but anyway, as i've said, we're all immuned to this problem already. but sometimes you cant help but still feel a bit unimportant because of this...
i have friends like that. but the problem is not with them, it's with the people they asked to help pass the message.
ok, here's the background story. all of us guys always go to the apartment of this particular friend...
at this point i want to say that this is not an angry or hate post. i've got used to it already. i've come to realise that some people are just like that, and i accept my friends for what they are already.
ok so as i was saying, we go to his apartment a lot, and because we've accepted him for who he is, we go even though the apartment is dirtier than ours, and that the apartment has a weird smell, and that there is no cooled-boiled water, and that there's no tissue etc.
and because we go to his apartment so often, whenever there's any events, people just ask him to inform us, maybe thinking that we'll go to his house anyway so it's easier that way.
but that's not the case.
everytime anyone ask him to ask us, he doesnt, at least not on the first day he sees us. he'll wait a few days and by then, some other people would had already asked us if we're going to whatever the event is. so, the first time we hear about anything is 'eh, you going to ( ) right?'.
and unless we're really interested in going, we'll just say no cause, well, we though we werent invited anyway. and when it's near the day of the event, the friend who was suppose to ask us will come and ask the same thing we've already been asked.
'eh, you going to () right?'
and then we'll say no again because even though we've heard about it, we werent officially invited.
but he does not get that.
he doesnt get it that sometimes we say 'no' because we simply dont feel as if we were invited, not because we really dont want to go. he also doesnt get it that we've heard about those events not because other people invited us, but because we've been asked us if we're going or not.
but anyway, as i've said, we're all immuned to this problem already. but sometimes you cant help but still feel a bit unimportant because of this...
